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We place a lot of undue stress on ourselves as Moms and parents, and in today's episode we talk about self care and writing as a parent when things in your life aren't going to plan. Mel got sick before her pages were due and couldn't get as much done as she wanted to this week. She emailed Jennie in a panic, who told her, "This isn't high school! I'm not going to give you detention!"
Jennie, Abby, and Mel talk about how writers can turn off the voice of perfectionism and hone in your mom/dad superpowers to discern when you need to protect your writing space and when you need to prioritize other things. Wether it be kids, your spouse, you day job or whatever - none of us live in a vacuum, and sometimes you need to postpone your deadlines to take care of other things in your life - no guilt required!
Jennie talks with Mel about her revisions in the chapter she was working on before she got sick, and they discuss the decision on whether or not to go back and revise before you move on to new scenes, and sometimes you need more world building and preparation in order to make further scenes work.
We also discuss "emotional cost-benefit analysis" from Lisa Cron - we want to see what kind of emotional cost-benefit analysis the characters are making, and how they make their decisions, either to identify with them or to walk in someone else's shoes for an experience we would never have.
Keeping that momentum in your writing, even if it's just two pages at a time, and not "letting yourself out of it" is as important as making regular page goals and deadlines. If you can, try to leave some mental real estate available to let your story be in your head. The danger of life getting in the way of writing is shutting the story out of your head so completely that you don't allow it the space it needs. Telling yourself you're going to write "sometime" when "things slow down" doesn't work - not making sustained excuses is what gets projects finished. If you chip away at it you're going to get where you need to go.